I have encountered far too many people over the years that are living beneath the dignity of their calling. Like an invisible chain connecting them to their past, life is going on without them. All around people they know and interact with daily are growing and progressing. They, on the other hand, are get passed. They are not stepping up they way they need to and everybody knows it.
I often wonder how it happens. Is it the frustration of a delayed dream that becomes so overwhelming they quit? Did they just not have enough grit in them to stand up and fight? They didn’t get “picked,” so they stopped? Others did not open the doors for them that were promised? Were they mistreated or misrepresented? Did they think it would be easier than it actually is?
Then it hit me.
Usually, it is not the external factors that tranquilize passion, but the internal ones. I am now convinced that most problems stem from unresolved pain that we do not process correctly. It is not about what happened to you; it’s about how you handled what happened to you. We avoid it, or ignore it, or meditate on it, or get angry about it, etc. The responses are various and sundry. But the point is, we do whatever we have to in order to keep from staring it in the eye and dealing with it.
Instead, we pack it in. We hide it. The only problem is, pain cannot be hidden for very long. It starts coming out in all kinds of ways. Everything in your life goes south since your last traumatic event, and you don’t know why. Your entire persona is the outworking of something internal; be it good or bad.
Here is the bottom line: you cannot change what you will not confront, and you cannot confront what you will not identify.
Instead of pretending to be strong and avoiding it, instead of burying it in your memory and calling it “forgiveness,” instead of blaming others… look it in the eye. It’s time to deal with it. It’s time to be honest and say that traumatic experience rocked your world, and you haven’t recovered. They hurt you so deep, you were so disappointed, you feel so jaded, etc.
Then take it to God, with remarkable candor, and get yourself set free. Quit waiting on a word or a service, and for sure don’t use it as justification for being critical or carnal. Go to your prayer closet. Face it, then replace it. Your destiny is waiting on you.
So, what’s holding YOU back?